Problems many people have them more than they have happiness. Luckily, some people are good at resolving them.
Would you like to know how they do it?
First of all problem solvers, or as some people like to call them carefree people, have one shared quality: they have a positive way of thinking.
They are great to be with because their mind-set is infectious.
The next time you come across a carefree person ask, “how is it you can carry your problems so easily?”
Below are 5 tips to follow so that you can have a similar mind-set:
1. You must learn to be in charge of your state of mind by disconnecting destructive thoughts from constructive thoughts. This is the first step in resolving a problem because it is only once you have emptied your mind of redundant thoughts that you can start to resolve your problem or problems.
2. You must see each problem as a challenge and a chance for personal development.
3. You must take accountability for your blunders. There is not one person on this world that is truly perfect, so never put the blames on others because everyone makes mistakes.
4. Write down your problem and rate the scale of the problem from 1-10 and ask your inner self to find probable answers to the problem.
5. Find a hobby, doing something you enjoy will help lessen stress in your life.
Follow the above tips and they will aid you to enhance the positive aspect of your being.
Here are 6 Steps that will Help You to Resolve Your Problems
1.First you must understand why you have a problem. So ask yourself, “What is the root cause of my problem?” Or ask yourself, “Why do I have this problem?”
The thing is if you know why your problem exists then you’ll have a much better chance of resolving it.
Let’s look at a problem, for example. Just say you have a child and your child doesn’t want to go to school for some reason. Before you can find a solution, it is vital that you find out why the child doesn’t want to go to school. Could it be that the child is being bullied?
2. Clearly define the problem and all the complications and obstacles that the problem is causing. Most often, people will refer to a succession of problems instead of confronting the main problem at hand.
So, the child who doesn’t want to go to school any more has the problem of it having a destructive impact on her/his his academic accomplishment. And of course as a parent this would cause you a lot of worry.
3. Do you have all the facts you need? Have you thoroughly investigated why the problem exists? If not, be persistent and find out all information you can before dealing with the problem.
4. Once you have all the information you need, analyse it and look at it from several viewpoints. Don’t jump to any conclusions. You must stay judgement free as much as you can. This is the time for critical thinking.
5. Now you must think of your options to solve the problem. How many do you have?
Which one seems the best and why? Have you weighed up the pros and cons of your options?
What disadvantage and advantage does each option have?
After analysing your options you should now be set to act. You have a good strategy in place.
But, remember you must regularly monitor the strategy. How will you know your strategy is working once it is in place?
6. So, as soon as you have clearly defined the problem, you then need to recognize what you don’t have control over and what you do.
Your attempts to resolve the problem has to be within the zones where you have some control. Maybe you may not have control over getting your child to go to school all the time but you do have some control over dealing with the school bully that is causing the problem. For instance you can talk to the teachers about the problem and then they should be able to deal with it.
Take into account that everybody encounters moment in their life where they feel that there is no way out of a situation but what you need to remember is that problems are problems.
They are started when you cannot acknowledge your boundaries. As soon as you acknowledge your boundaries, problem solving is just a 1-2-3-4-5-6 step, trouble-free, and a life- improving experience actually.
Therefore, never lock yourself away when a problem comes up. Remember a problem is a condition of your being restricted to a thing you require the most. But if you cannot have that significant thing, acknowledge it. Let go and you will release yourself of worries. As you know, fewer worries are equal to fewer problems.
- Clearly define the problem.
- Find out what the obstacles are connected to the problem.
- Decide what you don’t have control over and what you do.
- Make sure you have all the facts that you need.
- Identify all of your options and apply the best option to solve the problem. Good Luck!